Lies Women Believe About Emotions

This is part 8 of 11 of a series based on the book Lies Women Believe. Read the introductory post or view all the posts in the series.

32. If I feel something, it must be true

The Enemy wants us to believe that if we feel our situation is hopeless, then there must be no hope. That if we feel unloved, we are. And so on. However, in many instances, our feelings aren’t a reliable gauge of what is true: it doesn’t take much to make us happy (a sunny day) or sad (something we ate last night). Our feelings are not necessarily trustworthy, and we must be willing to reject any feelings that are not consistent with biblical truth.

The truth is:

  • My feelings cannot always be trusted. They can easily deceive me into believing things that are not true. Psalm 119:29-30; Jeremiah 17:9-10
  • I must choose to reject any feelings that are not consistent with the Truth. Psalm 33:4; Psalm 51:6; Psalm 56:3-4; Ephesians 4:14-15; Philippians 4:8-9

33. I can’t control my emotions

While it may be true that to some degree we can’t help what we feel, we don’t have to let our emotions run our lives.

The truth is:

  • I do not have to be controlled by my emotions. Psalm 6:1-10; Isaiah 54:10; Matthew 5:44; Ephesians 4:26; Philippians 4:4-7; 1 Thessalonians 5:18
  • I can choose to fix my mind on the Truth, to take every thought captive to the Truth and let God control my emotions. Psalm 42:11; Isaiah 26:3; 50:10; John 10:10; John 17:17; 2 Corinthians 10:5; Philippians 4:8-9; Colossians 3:1-2

34. I can’t help how I respond when my hormones are out of whack. (It’s understandable to act like a shrew at certain times.)

What happens in our bodies does affect us emotionally, mentally and even spiritually.  But God made our bodies and understands exactly what’s happening, and has not failed to make provisions for every season of a woman’s life.

The truth is:

  • By God’s grace I can choose to obey Him regardless of how I feel. Romans 5:2; James 4:6
  • There is no excuse for ungodly attitudes, responses, or behaviour. 1 Thessalonians 5:23-24
  • My physical and emotional cycles and seasons are under the control of the One who made me, cares for me, and has made provision for each stage of my life. Psalm 139:1-18

35. The answer to depression must first be sought in medication and/or psychotherapy

A study of depression and despair in the Bible reveals that, in some cases, it is an unavoidable consequence of living in a fallen world. In some cases, physiological symptoms connected with depression are rooted in the realm of the soul and spirit. Medication may help to alleviate the symptoms, but will not permanently solve the problem if it doesn’t have its origins in chemical imbalances in the body. The sufferer needs to address the heart issues in order to be truly free.

The truth is:

  • Physical and emotional symptoms of depression may be the fruit of issues in the spirit that need to be addressed. 1 Kings 21:4, 7; Psalm 32:3-4; Psalm 42:3-8; Psalm 55:4-5; Lamentations 3:1-33; Jonah 4:1-4
  • If my depression did not originate as a physical problem, medication will not permanently relieve my depression. James 5:13-16
  • I do not have a “right” to “feel good”. Regardless of how I feel, I can choose to give thanks, to obey God and to reach out to others. Philippians 4:4-7
  • God has given us powerful resources—His grace, His Spirit, His Word, His promises, the body of Christ—to minister to our emotional needs. Psalm 25:4-5; Romans 8:26; 2 Corinthians 12:9

My take on this chapter.

OK, I’ve justified my behaviour to myself (not to others) with #34. And, oh,  what a shrew I’ve been 😦