If you’ve lived long enough, you’ve had unpleasant interpersonal experiences—either as instigator, victim or bystander. In 2 Corinthians 7:10, the apostle contrasts godly grief which leads to repentance, and worldly grief which leads to death. What indicators can you look for to determine which is which?
|Involves emotions||Involves emotions and will|
|Distressed by the consequences||Distraught by their actions|
|Makes vague resolutions||Makes specific restitution|
|Wants public attention||Humbly accepts obscurity|
|Desires immediate return to positions of ministry/authority||Recognises the need to rebuild trust over time|
|Makes external displays of contrition||Displays internal development and change|
|Finds fault in how he/she is treated in the process of discipline||Exhibits submission to the humbling process of discipline|
|Hesitates to follow counsel in relation to reconciliation/restitution||Initiates action toward restoring broken relationships and making restitution|
From a slightly longer post on Counseling One Another.