Lies Women Believe: The truth that sets us free

This is part 11 of 11 of a series based on the book Lies Women Believe. Read the introductory post or view all the posts in the series.

In this last chapter, Nancy Leigh DeMoss highlights twenty-two truths that she holds to be crucial for Christian women in our day to believe and embrace. I’d add that they’re good for Christians of both genders to meditate on.

  1. God is good (Psalm 119:68; 136:1). Regardless of the circumstances, regardless of what we feel or think, God is good and everything He does is good.
  2. God loves me and wants me to have His best (Romans 8:32, 38-39). God doesn’t love us because we’re lovable or worthy, but because He is love. There is absolutely nothing we can do to earn or desire His love. We cannot comprehend such unconditional love; but if we believe it and receive it, His love will transform our lives.
  3. I am complete and accepted in Christ (Ephesians 1:4-6). I don’t have to perform to made acceptable to God. Why? Because Jesus—the pure, sinless Son of God—is acceptable to Him, and we stand in Him.
  4. God is enough (Psalm 23:1). If we have Him, we have everything we need for our present peace and happiness.
  5. God can be trusted (Isaiah 28:16). God keeps His promises.
  6. God doesn’t make any mistakes (Isaiah 46:10). God is always fulfilling His eternal purposes, and they cannot be thwarted by any human failure. If we are in Christ, our lives are in His hand and nothing can touch our lives that has not first been “filtered through His fingers of love”.
  7. God’s grace is sufficient for me (2 Corinthians 12:9). As a child of God, I will never face a circumstance that exceeds His grace. Continue reading

Lies Women Believe: Countering lies with the truth

This is part 10 of 11 of a series based on the book Lies Women Believe. Read the introductory post or view all the posts in the series.

This chapter reviews the material covered in the book thus far. The two major points of the book, we are reminded, are:

  • Believing lies places us in bondage
  • The truth has the power to set us free.

Progression to bondage begins when we listen to the lies. This is followed by dwelling on them, which in turn leads to acting on the lies. In order to get from bondage to freedom, at least 3 steps are needed:

  • Identify the area(s) of bondage or sinful behaviour
  • Identify the lie(s) at the root of that bondage or behaviour
  • Replace the lie(s) with the Truth

God’s Truth has the power to overcome every lie, to set us free (John 8:32) and to sanctify us (John 17:17). But we need to choose the pathway of Truth.

How do we know the Truth? The Truth is a person: the Lord Jesus Christ (John 14:6). True freedom is found in a vital, growing relationship with Him. In addition to knowing the Truth, we must surrender to Him. We must be willing to change our thinking or lifestyle in any areas where they do not square with the Word of God. Living according to the Truth requires a conscious choice to embrace Truth and reject deception (psalm 119:29-30).

Once we know the Truth and are walking according to the Truth, then we can be God’s instruments to draw others to the Truth (James 5:19-20).

Lies Women Believe About Circumstances

This is part 9 of 11 of a series based on the book Lies Women Believe. Read the introductory post or view all the posts in the series.

36. If my circumstances were different, I would be different

The implication of this statement is that our circumstances make us what we are. We feel that we would be more loving, more patient and easier to live with if our upbringing, our environment and the people around us were different. The truth is, our circumstances reveal what we are.  We may not realise how impatient we are until we encounter a set of circumstances that show us how we really are.

The truth is:

  • My circumstances do not make me what I am, they merely reveal what I am. Matthew 6:21; 15:19; Luke 6:45
  • If I am not content with my present circumstances, I am not likely to be happy in any other set of circumstances. Philippians 4:11-12
  • I may not be able to control my circumstances, but my circumstances do not have to control me. Hebrews 13:5; James 1:2-5
  • Every circumstance that touches my life has first been filtered through His fingers of love.  Genesis 45:8; 50:20; Job 1:8-12; Psalm 139:16; Matthew 10:29-31; Romans 8:28

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Lies Women Believe About Emotions

This is part 8 of 11 of a series based on the book Lies Women Believe. Read the introductory post or view all the posts in the series.

32. If I feel something, it must be true

The Enemy wants us to believe that if we feel our situation is hopeless, then there must be no hope. That if we feel unloved, we are. And so on. However, in many instances, our feelings aren’t a reliable gauge of what is true: it doesn’t take much to make us happy (a sunny day) or sad (something we ate last night). Our feelings are not necessarily trustworthy, and we must be willing to reject any feelings that are not consistent with biblical truth.

The truth is:

  • My feelings cannot always be trusted. They can easily deceive me into believing things that are not true. Psalm 119:29-30; Jeremiah 17:9-10
  • I must choose to reject any feelings that are not consistent with the Truth. Psalm 33:4; Psalm 51:6; Psalm 56:3-4; Ephesians 4:14-15; Philippians 4:8-9

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Lies Women Believe About Children

This is part 7 of 11 of a series based on the book Lies Women Believe. Read the introductory post or view all the posts in the series.

27. It’s up to us to determine the size of our family

Christians have come to absorb a number of “anti-children” philosophies from the culture around us. For example, it is widely held that a woman should choose when to have children and how many they should be.  However, the process by which most people regulate the size of their families is driven by fear, selfishness and human reason.

The truth is:

  • One of the purposes of marriage is to produce a “godly offspring”. Psalm 113:9; Psalm 127:3-5
  • Childbearing is a basic, God-given role for women. Children are to be received as a blessing from God. Psalm 127:3-5; 1 Timothy 5:14

28.  Children need to get exposed to the “real world” so that they can learn to function in it

God never intended for us to know evil by experiencing it for ourselves. Children should be raised to love righteousness and hate evil. If parents allow their children to absorb culture indiscriminately, they will cultivate an appetite for it instead of an appetite for the things of God. Continue reading

Lies Women Believe About Marriage

This is part 6 of 11 of a series based on the book Lies Women Believe. Read the introductory post or view all the posts in the series.

21. I have to have a husband to be happy

The ultimate purpose of marriage is not to make us happy, but to glorify God. Those who get married for happiness seldom find what they’re looking for.

The truth is:

  • Happiness is not found in (or out of) marriage. James 1:16-17
  • There is no person who can meet my deepest needs. No one and nothing can make me truly happy, apart from God. Psalm 62:5; Psalm 118:8-9; Jeremiah 17:5-7
  • God has promised to provide everything I need. If He will receive more glory by my being married, He will provide a husband for me. 1 Chronicles 29:11-12; Job 42:1-2; Proverbs 16:9; 1 Corinthians 7:25-38
  • Those who wait on the Lord always get His best. Those who insist on getting what they want often end up with heartache. Psalm 37:4; Psalm 106:15; Jeremiah 17:5-8

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Lies Women Believe About Priorities

This is part 5 of 11 of a series based on the book Lies Women Believe. Read the introductory post or view all the posts in the series.

18. I don’t have time to do everything I’m supposed to do

We feel overwhelmed by all the tasks we need to accomplish, despite the many conveniences and appliances that are supposed to free us up so that we can do other things. Why?

One answer may be that we’re taking on things that we weren’t meant to. In John 17:4, Jesus states that He had accomplished the task given Him by His Father. There were many people who still needed healing; the disciples wanted Him to set up an earthly kingdom: none of these were part of His God-given mission (even though they had their merits). In the same way, we should keep an eye on God’s “to do” list for our lives. This list is different from what He’s given others, and in different seasons of life, it may vary.

Another lie related to this is, “I can do it all!” We can’t. Something along the way is going to suffer, and we’re likely to end up exhausted.

The truth is:

  • There is time in every day to do everything God wants me to do. Psalm 90:10-12; Luke 10:38-42; John 17:4; Acts 20:24; Ephesians 2:10

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Lies women believe about sin

This is part 4 of 11 of a series based on the book Lies Women Believe. Read the introductory post or view all the posts in the series.

13. I can sin and get away with it

When we give into sin, we often consider only the pleasures and not the consequences. These consequences may affect us or others around us. They may be immediate or they may be a long time in coming.

The truth is:

  • The choices I make today will have consequences; I will reap what I sow. Genesis 3:4-5; Galatians 6:7-8
  • Sin’s pleasures last only for a season. Hebrews 11:25
  • Sin exacts a devastating toll. there are no exceptions. Psalm 10:6; Psalm 10:11; Psalm 10:13
  • If I play with fire, I will get burned. I will not escape the consequences of my sin. Psalm 32:1-5; James 1:13-15; Ecclesiastes 8:12; Ecclesiastes 12:13-14 Continue reading

Lies Women Believe About Themselves

This is part 3 of 11 of a series based on the book Lies Women Believe. Read the introductory post or view all the posts in the series.

7. I’m not worth anything

Many women struggle with feeling inferior and needing reassurance from those around them regarding their value. Sometimes the input of others is helpful, but sometimes it isn’t, leading the listener to a life of misery and bondage that can last years.

The truth is:

  • My value is not determined by what others think of me or what I think of myself. My value is determined by how God views me. Psalm 139:1-18; Ephesians 1:3-8; 1 Peter 2:4
  • If I am a child of God, I am God’s cherished possession and treasure. Romans 8:1-2, 15-17; 1 Peter 2:9

8. I need to learn to love myself

According to the Bible, the problem is quite the opposite: we love ourselves too much. We need to learn to deny ourselves and to give others the same care and attention we give ourselves. Ms. De Moss here gives the example of suffering from a toothache. When I have a toothache, I seek out any and all remedies to relieve my pain. When it’s someone else, I’m not quite as accommodating. Continue reading

Lies Women Believe About God

This is part 2 of 11 of a series based on the book Lies Women Believe. Read the introductory post or view all the posts in the series.

1. God is not really good. If He were, He would…

This is a lie few women consciously believe. But when things in our life don’t go as we thought they would, we are tempted to doubt God’s goodness, with questions like, “How could God have let this happen?” Or, “Why would He have withheld this [good thing] from me?” Once we doubt God’s goodness, we feel justified in rejecting His will and deciding right and wrong on our own terms.

The truth is that

  • God is good, and all He does is good. Psalm 31:19; 34:8; 100:5; 119:68; Ephesians 1:3-14
  • God never makes mistakes. Isaiah46:10; Romans 8:28-39 Continue reading